Aqeed nikkah

Question: How can Aqeed nikkah be conducted and can it takes place without mahr

I mean if the mahr is agreed to b paid during the wolimah nikkah by the groom and the bride

Answer:

Some Muslims still do not know and understand the concept of AQDUN NIKAAH and WALIMATUN NIKAAH, hence, the reason they do raise eyes and ignorantly accuse people (of fornication). Yesterday, a sister whose walimatun nikaah - WEDDING BANQOUET- was scheduled  to hold  in 4days time gave birth to a bouncing baby boy. Someone uploaded her walimatun nikaah IV alongside the news of the arrival of her charming prince and some people ignorantly raised eyes.

Nb: The Aqidun nikaah - SOLEMNIZATION OF MARRIAGE - has been done since JANUARY. 

For clarification purpose:

1. AQDUN-NIKAAH refers to SOLEMNIZATION OF MARRIAGE (TÍTA KOKO OYIGI). It  makes a man permissible for a woman and vice versa; it makes them HUSBAND AND WIFE.

2. WALIMATUN NIKAAH on the other hand refers to WEDDING BANQOUET. it can be held alongside the Aqid or postponed to a latter date based on agreement of the couples and the families involved.

3. Aqdun-nikaah can be held in a parlour or in public.

4. After proposal and acceptance has occurred between the  WOULD be couple, the next thing they're expected to work towards SWIFTLY is AQDUN-NIKAAH

5. AQDUN NIKAAH INVOLVES:

1. Giving out a lady  in marriage to her would be husband by her father or guardian (in case of death or if the father is a Non-Muslim). Scholars said the father or guardian would say "I give out my daughter in marriage to you) while the WOULD be husband will reply "I accept her  as my wife". 

2. Mahr (Dowry) : this is the EXCLUSIVE GIFT (could be money, clothes, books, houses, Hajj...) given by a husband to his wife.

MAHR could be given on the day of Aqid or deferred to a latter date.

The WIFE is the SOLE OWNER OF HER MAHR and also has the RIGHT to do whatever she likes with it. 

3. Witnesses: 2 witnesses. Lọba parí! 

4. Whenever you heard someone has done Aqdun-nikaah, just know that he/she has become someone's SPOUSE.

5. In conclusion, nikaah is Islaam is as simple as described above but it might  become complicated when we add cultural requirements to it.

Scholars would say:

1. They have KNOWN him in our HOUSE DOES NOT translates to SOLEMNIZATION of marriage.

2. We have done introduction DOES NOT  translate to marriage if it is DEVOID of the aforementioned conditions.

3. He has IMPREGNATED or he is the only one HAVING INTERCOURSE with me DOES NOT translates to Marriage. Infact, you committed and still committing ONE OF THE MAJOR SINS if you're living with a WOMAN without SOLEMNIZATION of marriage.

In addition to the slides on nikaah:

The "mistake" people usually lay claim to might not actually be  a mistake if they  had adhere to Islamic rulings on interaction between men and women.. The worldly consequences of Zina is enough to run away from it (for those who know it) talk less of its  grievous punishment in the hereafter.

Meanwhile, the popular Yoruba myth that "one is NOT destined to be legally wedded is nothing but fallacy!". Nikaah is so simple in Islaam that you can do Aqd and do walimatun nikkah between few people- not up to 20self-if you're extremely poor. 

¶ So in summary:

'Aqdun Nikāh, not Aaqidu as being generally pronounced, is the traditional Islamic marriage.

It has has 4 main components namely

 i:- a willing couple,

iii:- father or a waliy agreement,

ii:- witnesses, and a 

iv:- mahr, or gift that the groom gives to the bride.

Once you have these things in order and find an imam or a sound scholar to perform the ceremony, you will be well on your way to having a successful nikah. In shaaa Allah..

 

¶ Rulings on Mahr (Dowry):

1. it's the right of the wife and not the father or family. It must not be taken except with the permission of the wife.

2. It is permissible to postpone the payment of Mahr and  consummate the marriage with a woman before gifting her any bridal money (Mahr).

3. It must be a tangible or intangible gift or asset which should not be extremely exaggerated. (should not be greater than what he can afford to pay or without any hardship). 

4. It can be deferred. Must be paid before death. If the husband dies without paying it, the family must fulfill it. Otherwise, it's a debt on him.

5. The Mahr must not be a vow antithetical to the dictates of the Deen in making what is prohibited permissible or what is permissible prohibited.

BārakaLLaahu Fīkum